Advocating for Yourself as an EA: It's More Than Just Pay

Advocate For Yourself

When people hear the word negotiation, their mind often jumps straight to pay rises.

And yes, knowing your worth in salary terms is important. But self-advocacy as an Executive Assistant goes far beyond asking for a bump in your pay check.

It’s also about asking for the tools, time, and trust you need to do your job well.

It’s about communicating when your priorities have shifted, or when your plate is too full.

It’s about raising your hand when expectations are unclear or when last-minute chaos could have been avoided with a bit of planning.

The truth is, many EAs are phenomenal advocates… for everyone else. You fight hard for your executive’s time, shield the team from unnecessary noise, and pick up slack without a second thought. But when it comes to speaking up for yourself? That’s often where the silence creeps in.

Let’s flip that.

Because here’s the reality: you are the common denominator in every workday.

If you're unsupported, burnt out, or overlooked, the ripple effects are felt across the entire business. Advocating for yourself isn’t selfish - it’s strategic. It’s leadership.

So how do you actually do it?

Start by preparing your message. Get clear on what you need and why it matters - not just to you, but to the bigger picture. Whether it’s flexibility, clearer boundaries, or time to plan properly, anchor your ask in the value you bring.

Make it easy for others to see how supporting you equals smoother outcomes all around.

Then, drop the apology. You don’t need to apologise for needing clarity, respect, or breathing space. Being assertive doesn’t mean being aggressive. It’s about calm, clear communication that holds firm without drama.

And remember: asking for support doesn’t mean you’re not capable. It means you are capable - and you’re ensuring the conditions are right for you to keep thriving.

So don’t wait for permission. Lead the conversation.

Because when you advocate for yourself, you also set a standard - for how others can speak up, too. That’s real influence. That’s smart leadership.

Nina 🌻